There are no positive reasons for dating a married man. Even the good
reasons don’t stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in
good ideas’ clothing. After a brief reasearch on why ladies get involved
with married men it was discovered that most times this ladies go after
married men because they are rich, compared to their broke boyfriend.
They are more caring, for they know how to take care of them and they
are always there for them. They have security and connection through
this men. But ask yourself if its really worth it, losing your pride and
dignity for something so lowly and vain.
A woman with even an ounce of pride would NEVER share someone else’s
husband. If you find yourself on the brink of temptation, look at these
10 truths before you leap:
1. It is so wrong
Of all the reasons not to get involved with a married man, the primary
one has to be this: it’s just plain wrong. Both a married man and his
girlfriend can come up with all sorts of reasons to justify what they’re
doing – it’s real love, his wife doesn’t treat him right, etc. Those
are excuses but cheating is never right, and a person with dignity just
wouldn’t be part of it.Getting involved with a married man is so wrong
even for all the right reasons. Society frowns at it, God detests
fornication, and you aren’t being fair to even yourself.
2. He is the winner
He’s got his cake and is eating it, too. He has a legitimate married
relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate
one with you to make up for what he’s missing in his marriage.He can
spend his days with you and his nights with his wife; if you ask us, he
is very blessed. When he is tired of you, he can move on with no strings
attached, and don’t think he won’t. If he could do that to someone to
whom he is legally bound, what will he do to you who only has his words?
He is the one who is being hailed by his friends as “the really big
man” while you are the husband- snatcher. He wins, for while his morale
is always high, yours will be low, for you will have no dignity or pride
again.
3. He won’t leave her for you
We don’t care how many promises he made to you, don’t expect him to
leave her and come marry you. So you can start preparing yourself for a
heartbreak when he moves on to someone else who is just as naïve. And
yes he’ll find someone sweeter, shapelier and better than you ever are.
pity you, he goes home to his wife, you go home wishing he it had lasted
forever.
4. He might not be who you think he is
We hear stories about how some girls were used for ritual sacrifice, it
isnt a day that the act is perpetuated, the married man could have kept
stuffing the girl with money and food, like a broiler waiting for the
day he’ll slaughter her for money ritual. But of course he wouldnt use
his wife. You don chop, come die, funny. Besides you will never know for
sure where he is, what he is doing, and who he is doing it with. There
is always two sides to every story and unfortunately, you will never
know any other side but his.
5. You’ll always be his little secret
No one can know about you. Not family, not respectable friends, you
can’t go out with him in public because you just might get caught either
by his family or yours. Plain and simple, he doesn’t want anybody to
know about you for the fear of making himself look bad.Prepare for a
hide-and-seek affair. You really can’t call what you are having a
relationship, think of it more like a hide and seek game.And hiding can
be exhausting, having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your
self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects
of a relationship. Walking together freely and radiantly through the
world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to
be with you. So why even bother?
6. Lose his respect and it’s over
It is pretty obvious that immediately you accept his offer, his respect
for you is gone. because he is thinking “she’s after my money” so the
likeness reduces and you become his little puppet, he’ll start stringing
you around. So even though he’s the one who pursued you, even though
he’s the one that made it difficult to say “No.” And even though he
tells you how wonderful you are. At some level, he’s going to have
trouble respecting you for settling for such a flawed relationship.
Watch it, so he wont wash you
7. You’re kidding yourself
Despite that he tells you he loves you, reassuring you how much you mean
to him, his not ending his relationship with his wife and coming into
your arms speaks for itself, you are a second best. A mediocre, and you
are worth having fun with but not marrying. If such is the case why
settle for less when you can go for your type.
8. Time is too precious to waste
Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older? And so matter how
you try you will look older, especially since you are dating an older
man, fact. Because it’s convenient and comfortable, a relationship with a
married man can go on for a long time, it will therrefore deter you
from having a serious relationship. And omo! before you know it you have
eaten up the precious time you might have had in a healthy relationship
with a chance of flourishing with an old man.
9. Loyalty is not one of his strong points
Obviously. If he can cheat on her{his wife}, he would do it to you. He
made a vow when he married her and he clearly couldn’t follow through
with it. What would make you think you’re any different than her? Infact
your stand is even worse for you have no legal backing. I’m sure you do
know this, yes?
10. Beware it can boomerang
There is no fool proof in cheating, even though you have all the sides
covered and a schedule to keep your activities secret, remember
“everyday is for the thief and one day is for the owner” but omo! that
one day go brutal die, when the madam of the oga you have been sharing
catch you pants down. Heh! heh! you will cry tears will not come and
you’ll receive public disgrace and be humilited. And its funny that many
men (and women) have difficulty accepting full responsibility for their
deceitful actions. Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept
shame. If he is caught by his wife or conscience, don’t be surprised if
he tries to blame you and get you to take the fall.
